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Sometimes an angel is all you need. SBB 1964

I have discovered something very helpful to me this holiday season.

It may seem obvious to you, but, in fact, I was surprised to learn again that the amalgam of holidays which we honor in varying ways all simmer down to one thing.


And so, from the heart of Laundry Line Divine, I wish you Light.

For this passing year, on all the sore spots and tough places and untended patches, let Light permeate those to ease. for breath and release.

For the events of this year that have scared us, jarred us, alerted us to the bigness of grief and the potential for change, let Light mix in to the murky depths and alchemize the grime in to golden rays of possibilities made real.

For the moments when you opened your eyes in wonder, let that generated Light fuel you to do what it is that ignites your joy in this world. Whatever it is, however preposterous, do that. Let what you yearn for be what you do. Please.

As Rumi says “Learn to Light the Candle.”

In a dark moment on Christmas Eve when I could not remember what all we were celebrating here, I read this by Jan Phillips, and it has made all the difference for me on these holy days of deep winter.

Spirit flies into open windows. Thanks to @theejanphillips and #adventwindows for this. XoS

All blessings to you,

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Music for Newtown

Hold on to what is good even if it is a handful of earth.
Hold on to what you believe even if it is a tree which stands by itself.
Hold on to what you must do even if it is a long way from here.
Hold on to life even when it is easier letting go.
Hold on to my hand even when I have gone away from you.
~Pueblo Blessing ~

I think this week has finally caught up with me. At the first notes of this music which I received as a gift last night, I burst in to tears.

Here is the second selection for Newtown by my friend Jan Phillips.

There has been much gaiety here on Hollenbeck Avenue, but my heart continues heavy. I am aching for the families in Newtown, CT for whom funerals continue this weekend.
I look at Christmas light differently.

Which is not to say that joy is not welcome in my heart. Last night my women’s circle celebrated Solstice together and we laughed and sang and walked a spiral of greens out under the teacup moon.

Solstice 2012

We missed our pal Roger the Jester. These words he shared on Face book this past week really struck me tonight. They are from a book about dealing with trauma.

Spend time with others. There may be times of reflection and solitude. But, do not isolate yourself. You may also find yourself laughing sometimes, even as you grieve. That is not blasphemy: it is the Life Force trying to surface again. It is alright.

This post contains three pieces of music dedicated to this week, all honoring the people who died in Newtown. I bring them to you here, just to let you know there are ways to process this grief we all feel. Singing, composing a poem, drawing, translating this heaviness in to a creative act helps you digest what is going on inside you. By moving a pen across a page or knitting a few rows, you can move your busy mind in to a softer receptive place. I will be knitting this evening and sharing more apple pie with my son.

04 Your Only Compass
This song is by my soul mate Justine in Australia. She wrote this when her sister died last year. Justine sent it to me, to share with all of you. If I could tuck it in to the hearts of the families in Newtown, I would. Help me send it to them by listening here.

I urge you to keep your activism local during these days. We are called to big actions of doing for others, but remember that the small actions make big differences. Listen to this music, share a slice of pie and just talk. I could easily crawl into a cave tonight and weep for the families of Newtown. But, right now, writing this small post and sharing these beautiful musical offerings allows my “Life Force” to surface. I am breathing easier right now.

I read this Rumi the other day and it has stayed with me:

“Brother, stand the pain. Escape the poison of your impulses.
The sky will bow to your beauty if you do.
Learn to light the candle.

Rise with the sun. That way a thorn expands to a rose.
A particular glows with the universal.

What is it to praise? Make yourself particles.
What is it to know something of God?
Burn inside that presence. Burn up. “

from Tattooing in Qazwin (2)

Your Only Compass by Justine Bradley
Rolling dough with Mike and Beth

The experience Catherine and I had in Newtown with Beth M. Howard, serving slices of apple pies has marked us deeply.
When I read this in Jan Phillips’ No Ordinary Time, I felt described.

My reality if simultaneously local and global.

Let yourself be moved by your grieving.
Learn to light the candle of your life and burn.
Burn brightly.

Many blessings to you on this quiet night before the night before Christmas,



What is a Mother to Do?

Step outside today.  XoS

What is a mother to do? Within two hours drive from my quiet town, another quiet town has had unbearable and unbeatable grief whipped down on it with the terrible act of one poor young man on Friday, December 14.

What could I do here at home? What could any of us do to stay the outpouring of tears, grief and anger over a horrific act of violence wrought upon small children and the women who safeguard their learning day in and day out?

I was a She-Bear pacing my house, my lair, not sure what action could receive my growing need to do. On Sunday evening, after a day of adventure with my daughter in an effort to distract us from our helplessness, we listened to the prayer vigil in Newtown as we drove home. Hearing that boy sing a magnificent Muslim prayer followed by voice upon voice evoking the Divine, spreading comforting and inspired words over the chasm of pain that had opened in Newtown, we were riveted to our seats. Then, when President Obama spoke, we knew that we had to do something.

The next morning, I sent an email to my circle of women here in the Berkshires announcing that I was heading south to show up on the streets of Newtown to fill whatever need I could find. And if any of them wanted to join me, they could. I was willing to scrub the floors of the church kitchens or sweep the sidewalks. Within minutes I got word from my pal Gina that her friend Beth had a mission of bringing freshly baked apple pies to Newtown and was gathering bakers in the northwest corner of New Jersey to prepare the pies.

Moving at the Pace of Pie

I called Beth at 10:22 am. By 2:00 pm, Catherine was out of school with me in the car driving towards the turnpike. By 5:30 pm, we arrived at the home of strangers who quickly became friends. We rolled up our sleeves and learned what we were to repeat over and over again until the final pies came out of the oven. We helped bring the total number of pies up to 240 by 10:00 pm.

Mixing pie dough
Catherine cutting crusts
Beth M. Howard loading up the RV

There is great comfort in baking apple pies. I never knew the potential one slice of pie could have on a soul until the next day.

Last pies get loaded in to the RV
Catherine is heading off to Newtown CT with  and Beth Howard. XoS

We rose early on Tuesday to load Beth’s RV. Once my car was filled with baking supplies for the pies Beth hoped to make in Newtown this week, we left. Only a two-hour drive, but our hearts beat harder the closer we got in to Connecticut. By the time we arrived at the Newtown Youth Academy, we were no longer a group of people hurrying to our destination. We were people moving at the Pace of Pie, come to serve kindness.

We helped bake and serve 250 apple pies in Newtown, CT. Would you like to #easethegrief with #piefornewtown ? XoS

Yesterday stands in my memory as a day of cutting and serving the golden-crusted crowns of dough covered apples, rippled edges being picked up by fingers young and old to savor every last bite. It is a day of offering plates to people silenced by their grief only to stand together long enough to hear story after story of this remarkable time, this life altering experience, this effort- a groaning effort to encompass the shock and the living beyond that shock. Something about eating a slice of pie in the company of others eased the sad faces I encountered. The smiles of appreciation, the hugs received and given, the requests of pie for others, we delivered pies to those carrying the weight of a week full of wakes and funerals, of obituaries. The people of Newtown are attending more funerals in one small week than some people attend in a lifetime. One sweet teenager I talked with said he felt numb. As he carried along a slice of pie for his sister, he said he could not imagine why the media persisted in his small town. I told him that there are millions of people trying to figure out how to live with themselves, unable to hand him a slice of pie or walk the rainy street together with him. Those are the people CNN is reaching. A nation of people eager to help, desperately aching for this small town of strong sturdy community members who are showing us all how it is done.

Catherine and Janice are ready to serve

This is what my friend Maria Sirois wrote on Monday morning:

When tragedy strikes here is what we can do:

Feel what we feel so that neither grief nor anger become poison within us and so that others have permission to feel all that they feel.

Bear witness without flinching from darkness. 

Tell the truth.

Honor the ordinary heroes among us and those who do the difficult work of holding the story in all its despair and desolation, and those who begin the long hard job of clearing and cleaning, uncovering and naming as much as can be uncovered and named.

Hold onto the bits of light that emerge wherever they do so and from whomever.

Surround those who grieve with care that is authentic and wholehearted.

Love them up, feed them, show up and show up again. Bake if you can, drive if you can, buy milk, share your memories when they are ready and until then listen. Listen. Listen.  

And, however possible, be as a sequoia rooted in your conviction that none of us need go through this alone and certain that every twig, every limb, every branch holds the promise of spring even as it anchors the ice of winter.



This tree stands in front of the Edmond Town Hall where one of the many memorials gather flowers and tears.

Newtown Tree in front of Town Hall

I cannot say I have done enough. But I did something. And coming home to my quiet town, to my circles of friends, to my family, after having moved at the Pace of Pie makes me know that it does not matter who you help. All that matters is that you help. If you are like me, stricken with grief, pacing your house, disturbed by the commercialization of this holiday season more than ever for thinking of the families for whom this season will hold nothing but sadness for years to come- if you feel even an inkling of any of these things, then I urge you, I plead with you-




Find someone in your life, on your street for which the gift of a pie would change their day.


And, if you want to stand with the families in Newtown, bake a pie for a school teacher or a policeman or EMT. Find out who would be a first-responder in your town and go hand them a pie.


Or, even a shoebox of home-baked Christmas cookies.


The simple act of rolling out dough, melding butter and flour with your strength and care, sweetened with the summer’s worth of sunshine released by the apples inside that crust, you will create a gift that will be remembered for years to come.


One father, after walking past our Free Pie sign a number of times on Tuesday morning, finally paused and reached for a slice. ‘Pie says it all’ he grinned.

River bank

Today I walked along the Green River. The banks have changed with our heavy rains this past fall. But, those banks still run along the river, they hold the charging flow of water, the snags of branches, the swirling eddies around tree trunks. The banks of the river, just like our hearts, expand with every life experience, both joy and sorrow. The banks are changed. But the banks remain.

And so do we remain.


I urge you to let this terrible time change you. Let yourself be reshaped by the gushing waters of sorrow and pain, let yourself be expanded to hold this new level of awareness that Newtown is adjusting to a new normal. We are all different today than we were just last Friday morning at 8:30 am. I ask you to let that difference move you.


We can be standers-by or we can step in.


The fact that I could step all the way on to the sidewalk in front of the Edmond Town Hall in Newtown is a fact of geography.

The fact that you can make a difference in the life of someone in need, in your own neighborhood, remains up to you.


Will you let the shootings in Newtown change your life?


My friend Regena sent me this link. You can sign a petition to urge President Obama and Vice President Biden to take the action they know is needed for stricter gun control.

Beth M Howard in Newtown 12.18.12

Here is Beth reading us some of the emails she got on Tuesday evening. After only eight hours and at that point about 125 pies sliced, the townspeople were offering thanks. Here is Beth’s website. If you’d like to donate to The World Needs More Pie, for the efforts in Newtown, follow that link. Everything beyond Beth’s costs for supplies will be donated to grief counseling services in Newtown. This is double philanthropy at it’s best. By supporting Beth doing her work in the world, you provide a community with services that will be needed long after Beth and her RV pull out of town.


We can each leave such a lasting legacy.

May yours start with your heart.


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