Beth Bornstein Dunnington
Staying on the Wave
When you meet me I wonder if you notice that I am new. I am something other than I was, someone other than I was even in this room before. The last time it was leaving. I was leaving this room and starting again – in a new place. With different colors and smells and ocean. Even a different ocean.
As a girl I sat on the beach wall above the gray/slate blue Atlantic. Cold. Enormous expanse of that color. And the jetties… unforgiving.
“Don’t go out on the jetties, Bethy!” my father warned me. “That’s where so and so drowned. You can never anticipate the undertow. Not in Boston. Not from the jetties…”
So I sat on that wall: neutral-colored, crumbling, graffiti-covered “Dana & Dominick 4 eva,” and I watched the jetties, imagining a young person, a kid, like me, going out on a dare and getting sucked under. Instantly. Without a chance to remember or regret what they might have become had they not made that choice. Walking barefoot over sharp shells and disintegrated sea urchins, before the wave swept them away.
I knew, sitting on that wall, that I had drowned in a past life… images of a boat with sails traveling from somewhere, Eastern Europe maybe – or Africa? I experienced that sensation of drowning, being engulfed by that gray/slate blue cold Atlantic. Quietly, with no one looking or sometimes not quietly, holding on to a piece of driftwood or the remnant of a sail, torn in the going down.
The act of going down.
Not as quick as the undertow of the jetty but quick enough. Being engulfed, lungs filling with salt and cold and of course, water.
That’s what I imagined at eleven or twelve, sitting on my private wall in Winthrop, wondering how long the Atlantic would let me live, would spare me that.
And then I left. To the Pacific. Turquoise, aqua, black and green sand beaches, or white – not gray. Rich, vibrant and even stronger, louder than the Atlantic. No Jetties but waves, big waves that can wash me onto the shore, on a boogie board probably meant for someone younger. But I need that ride, that thrill, for ten seconds, or thirty. Especially now. Holding my son’s hand as he instructs me on the art of staying on the wave.
“Mom! Turn around…here it comes, go! Go now mom! Don’t miss it!”
I ride in on that wave with my son and his friend Brian or Casey or Andrew. I am the mom on the boogie board, trying to eek out more time. Trying to ride over what happened. Trying to stay with my boy before the Hapuna Beach waves – angry in winter, unpredictable – before they pull us apart and I am pushing against the current to get back to my son.
“Sean! You’re too close to the rock!” I call out.
But he doesn’t hear me and I am there again.
A girl on a wall.
Imagining going under.
Salt in the lungs, water, disappearing – although this time it’s my son, not me, whom I can’t save.
But this is my fantasy, my illusion. And there he is, of course, throwing himself on the board as he and his friend Brian or Casey or Andrew try to outdo each other, to get on the wave first, to make it all the way to the sand.
This is where I was going when I was last in this room.
To those waters.
And I am here now…no ocean today, but again gray/slate/cold.
And I am new. Different. Changed.
Can you see that when you meet me?
Do you know who I was before?
With that journey came new dangers, new falls, a new kind of drowning, but not one that I imagined, not even a little. Not one that my dad could have warned me about as I sat on that wall back then, contemplating my demise.
“Don’t go out on the jetty, Bethy! You’ll get sucked under…”
Not anything I could have imagined.
But here I am. Returned. New wings. My elbows are wings, you said. Yes. I can imagine that. I wear wings on my neck. A phoenix, given to me by Silvia, a survivor, a new Silvia from this ocean.
“The phoenix rose again,” she said, when she put it in my hand. “I never take mine off,” she said.
Do you see that about me when you meet me? Maybe not. But it is there. Under my scarf, against my neck. Ready for flight. To rise above the slate blue gray the turquoise black and green. To start again.
To be new.
Beth Bornstein Dunnington is an east coast performer/director, writer/editor and mom who finds herself living on the Big Island of Hawaii. Since moving to this wildly alive yet very remote place, Beth has been most interested in what wakes us up creatively, and the delicate balance between parenting and living as an artist. For six years, Beth was the co-artistic director/co-founder of Two Island Productions, a theater company dually based in Manhattan and Bermuda, dedicated to creating, developing and performing original plays. She also wrote scripts for many years for animated TV series including “Doug,” “Batman,” “Jem and The Holograms,” “Transformers,” “GI Joe,” “My Little Pony,” “He Man,” “Thundercats,” “Scooby Doo,” and she was part of the Emmy Award winning team of writers on Steven Spielberg’s “Tiny Tunes.” Her most recent projects are co-writer for the Independent film “The Road To Q’ero, a Journey Home” and the writer/actor in a collaborative theater/dance multi-media performance piece, “Que Suenes Con Las Angelitas,” which was performed in Hawaii and will be touring in Buenos Aires in 2013. She blogs on She Writes.