Creativity and Motherhood
For a long time I didn’t see myself as a creative person.
When I was seven years old I drew a tree with an owl sitting in it. My art teacher didn’t like it.
I stopped thinking I was an artist.
As I grew up I found that I loved writing.
But I was too scared to write creatively.
So I did “stick to the rules, write papers for college,” kind of writing.
I was a left-brain type. Always in my head.
Creatives were women who wore flowy skirts, dangling jewelry and sang songs under full moon skies. They were men who took art classes, wore black, and spat at authority.
I didn’t do any of those things.
And then I had a daughter.
My daughter liked to paint and draw. She liked to do crafts projects and sing songs in the woods. She liked to be creative.
Because I was her mom and I was home with her all the time, I started playing with her, creatively.
I would paint and draw. I would sing and dance. And no one but my daughter was watching so it was okay.
In fact my daughter loved it all.
As my daughter has gotten older I’ve taught myself to drop more into my body and allow my creativity to express itself.
I’ve cooked amazing meals. I try on different clothes and experiment with different colors. I’ve started taking pictures. And sometimes I draw.
But most importantly I’ve discovered that writing – in any form – is creative. It is me on paper as my thoughts unfurl themselves and become sentences that tell a story.
I’ve let go of the “right” way to write and allow what comes to just be.
I learned a lot of this from my daughter. Watching her forget about everything else but the piece she’s creating or the play she’s enacting. Watching her not care what anyone else says. Taking great pride in her work and offering it easily and joyfully to the world.
Her creativity has given me permission to find my own and claim what was always there.
And now I stand in my creativity so that as she grows older and begins to listen to the world outside of her, she will see and know that ultimately, she is the best and only judge of her work.
That her creativity is her own.
And that she is a creative soul.
Because, if there is one thing I’ve learned, it’s that it doesn’t matter what you think, how you dress or whether or not you sing songs under full moon skies, we are – each and every one of us – creatives.
Daphne Cohn is the founder and CEO of The Pleasure Nutritionist. She studied Whole Health Education at the National Institute of Whole Health, became a Raw Food Specialist with the Body-Mind Institute Raw Nutrition Certification Program and she is an Intuitive Eating Counselor. Daphne has taught courses on nutrition locally and around the United States.
Daphne has conducted five international telesummits, interviewing over 65 health and wellness experts including Byron Katie, Debbie Ford, Dr. Bruce Lipton, Dr. Bernie Siegel, David Wolfe, Dr. Brian Clement, Dr. Norm Shealy, Dr. Marcelle Pick and several others. Daphne has created several online health and wellness courses including her 28 day Wake Up Energized Program and the Radiant Beauty Cleanse ecourse. She is currently working on a book due out in Spring 2012.