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The Village: Sap is running!

Mama maples "True quiet is an awakening
illustrations by Julie Bond Genovese


Spring is arriving slowly in the Berkshires.

Tapped maples have been offering their juice to the fires burning in sugar shacks.

The lakes are still covered in ice.

Some years, when the end of March arrives, I stand at the edge of Lake Mansfield and felt the cold updraft of newly thawed water, listening to the Spring Peepers off in the cove that warms with first morning light.


Are you watching green return to your landscape?

Or are you ankle deep in mud as we are here in the Berkshires?

This week, Julie Bond Genovese offers a guest blog post for the Out of the Mouths of Babes blog series. Julie is a friend I have made in the cyber-Village, having not yet had the pleasure of a face-to-face meeting; we have come to know each others work. Her book, Nothing Short of Joy is a triumphant memoir, funny and revealing in the best of ways. Her father recently died and I felt, having read her memoir, that I knew something of him, of his place in Julie’s life.

Before you dive in to Julie’s post, I just want to tell you about some events in the Berkshires. This is the final weekend of the Berkshire Festival of Women Writers, which has roused the sap of hundreds of people all during the month of March. Three events are happening this weekend by women in my Village.

 The first, Can You Hear Me Baby? directed by Jayne Atkinson.

This is a special event for the Festival, a collaboration of some amazing theatre artists all about sex, love and OMG Birth! Jayne asked me to tell you that when you go to the box office for tickets, let them know you are with the Festival and they will honor your purchase of a $35 ticket. Just go see the show. I am so sorry I am away and missing it. You can read more about it here.


Karen Arp-Sandel, SBB, Barbara Newman, Jayne Atkinson at OUT 2014
Karen Arp-Sandel, SBB, Barbara Newman, Jayne Atkinson at OUT 2014


Then, on Sunday, well all day Sunday for the Festival is wonderful. A conversation between Mary Pope Osborne of the Magic Tree House series and her beloved friend and Out of the Mouths of Babes writer, Jenny Laird, followed by the Book Expo and more stuff. Here is more about the Festival and a call for submissions coming up.

Then, on Monday evening, join two wise wonderwomen, Sarah Nicholson and Cindy Parrish for an evening exploring menopause. This intimate event at the Stanmeyer Gallery and Shaker Mill Coffeehouse in West Stockbridge is sure to be deep and lush.

I offer you Julie’s post today. Leave her comments. Julie is a blogger like me and loves to interact with readers.

 Wherever you are, I hope these posts by and about The Village: Who Else is Here While You Mother? let you see where you ache for community, where you have it in abundance and just how you can connect to create a meaningful life.

I am off to see my girl today in Leadville, Colorado.

Round about 7 PM Mountain Time, expect to see a meteor shower of love streaming across the sky.


As Anne Lamott says and Julie affirms:

“Looking up is the only way out.”


Here is to you, my dear Village, S

Mother Nature’s Soul-care – Releasing Busyness & Embracing Stillness

By Julie Bond Genovese

?In an age of speed there is nothing more e xhilarating than going slow. Pico Iyer

Three gentle giants wait for me in the backyard. Eighty feet tall, our magical maples watch over our home, guard our dreams. They stand in a curved row, committed back-up singers, ready to harmonize with those who’ll listen.

Daily, I feel them calling me away from the computer, the rush, the worries. They’re humming, encouraging, being. They know when I’ve forgotten to breathe again. Meditation and quiet have fallen away this week. Ease and gratitude were kicked to the curb. I’ll relax later when everything is done. But it never is.

I push to do more – more posts, promotions, social media megaphones. I paint and write toward a goal, without any open-ended wholeheartistry. I’m caught in the story of not-enoughness – not enough time for family, for business and, especially, for the colors of me.

I search for what’s missing in my post-its, emails and chopped up chores. The kids interrupt, the laundry moans, and the phone rattles the air. I plug my ears. I can’t hear myself over all the questions. So I answer the maples.

I step out the backdoor and we sigh in unison. They are the quietest of teachers and it’s their stillness I seek. “There you are,” they whisper sweetly. “Come sit down in the dandelions.” The lawn chair scoops me up and I rest in her arms. I stare at the maples who breathe me like a prayer.

"Give up what no longer works in order to stay close to what is sacred.Mark Nepo

In the front yard, I hear crying. Drat. I get up, unlatch the gate and walk away from my sanctuary, knowing I may never return today. Or tomorrow.

Down our drive, I spot the two five-year-old friends sitting on the sidewalk, scooters flung to the side. I check my son Kyler’s face, but the hurt isn’t his. I switch to our neighbor, Jeremia. His mouth is wide and wailing. My heart, my pace, quickens.

Just as I’m about to call out, I see Kyler raise his finger and gently, quickly, touch Jeremia’s nose. I catch my breath. A tiny giggle spurts out of Jeremia, defying his tears. Ky blesses his friend’s nose again, loving and light as tinker bell. They both giggle more.

I back away, not wanting to disturb the vision, the sweetest sharing, of love being passed on. I’m soothed by Ky’s tenderness. His presence. I walk back to my spot in the sun with a heart open wider.

As I sit back beneath the maples, I remember an important email I must return. My reverie hits the dirt. My brain backs up into busy, formulating my response, when I hear a firm and penetrating, shhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

My body freezes. My mind dumps it’s contents. What was that? But nothing is there.


Whoa, there it is again. Oh my goddess, it’s the maples. They are addressing me! They’re swaying inside the message, perfect in it’s tone and lullaby. Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh they coo, as their leaves wave and laugh. The air is rocked clean in their soft mama spell. My smile sails down the long green lawn, sweeping up into a vast and hopeful sky.

I’m startled, each time, by the truth – I’m a part of this glory. Although I feel small at the feet of mother nature, I’m larger, too, the moment I touch Her expanse.

Grace patiently waits within and around me, and when I’m open to its Presence, a greater heartbeat syncs with mine. Like pixie-dust, it lifts me back home.

I may forget tomorrow. But no worries, amnesia is a piece of the poetry. Remembering is a natural wonder, too, and remedies are everywhere.

I hear the clank of the gate unlatching and I sigh. I turn to ask the intruder if I can take more time alone, but before my words escape, Ky asks brightly, “Mommy, wanna piece a gum?” My smile surprises me. “Sure,” I answer. “Jeremia had to go,” he reports, as he hands me a piece. We unwrap the pink puff and chew together, in silent sweetness. Kyler rests naturally, cross-legged in his chair. His breathing is free and whole. His spirit, unencumbered.

Just ‘being’ is the most productive and loving choice I’ve made today.

The maple chorus rises up with one more shimmering shhhhhhhhhhh and I remember what I’ve forgotten. Tears close my eyes. The magic sits before me, within me, like a wide-eyed child. My boy, and the mama maples, have settled the breezes inside me, again.


"I allow my living to open me. DawnaMarkova


Please download Julie’s free 60 pg. ebook, “Release the Blocks So Creativity Rocks!” at her website www.nothingshortofjoy.comJulie Bond Genovese is an inspirational speaker, creative living coach, blogger, artist, mom and best-selling author of her award-winning memoir, Nothing Short of Joy, endorsed by Wayne Dyer, Dr. Christiane Northrup & Dr. Bernie Siegel. Julie has been featured on TV & radio including Anderson Cooper Live, NBC LX & Being born a dwarf, with degenerative arthritis, was not the poison Julie originally believed – it became the cure. As she began to view her challenges as sacred choices made by the soul, everything shifted. Julie mentors spirit-led creatives on how to use self-expression to transform life’s grief and energize ginormous joy. 
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The Village: A Permission Slip

What spring promises. Just not yet.
What spring promises. Just not yet.

The edge of spring is showing beneath the hemline of winter. All along the south side of my house where the snow has melted, green shoots persist despite the blowing cold temperatures today.

As do I persist with the Out of the Mouths of Babes blog series and digesting our event on March 7. And just as those shoots promise the gifts of crocus and daffodil, I promise you a small gift.

Today is a great day for a gift, right? It is my yoga teacher’s birthday today.

I am updating my mission here on Laundry Line Divine with the soulful guidance of Jeffrey Davis and his Tracking Wonder team. They are urging me to be clear and clearer about my mission here with this website and with my work in the world. My work has resembled my knitting basket with many half-completed multicolored projects, a complicated sock on five needles and scraps of yarn from old projects that I just cannot toss.

I am tossing.
I am setting aside projects that can wait.
I am writing my book Laundry Line Divine: A Wild Soul Book for Mothers.
And I am cleaning up this website so that you, my beloved readers, can enjoy my work, the work of the Out of the Mouths of Babes tribe, and explore my offerings.

Here is my latest, slated for April 18 in Charlotte, NC.
If you are in the Berkshires, pencil in May 17, for a soon-to-be-revealed event.

The following is the piece I read at Out of the Mouths of Babes: An Evening of Mothers Reading to Others on Saturday, March 7, 2015 at Dewey Memorial Hall as part of the Berkshire Festival of Women Writers. This is Ilana’s gift, since she was sick on this evening. Read on. Your gift comes at the end.

Suzi Banks Baum by Christina Lane

A Village: which originates between your legs

Human life begins in a fish state, this queer divine dissatisfaction that stays with you for nine months until you give birth. Little did I expect, when I was expecting, that I was bringing to life a conversation piece. As I spread my thighs and felt pain like no other pain, I opened a channel for a commerce of connection that developed a village around it without any effort.

My midwife. There she was on the other side of the stirrups in her green hospital robe. I cannot recall her face at this moment but I do hear her voice, feel her hands on my legs and the authority she brought to the room. And my husband, who without being the one to birth, stood and stands closer to me than any other on this ride of motherhood.

We were, in that delivery room, hammering stakes into the ground, marking the spot that would ever be known as our Village. From one to two to three to four and before you know it we had all the things a village needs, water, food, and people to eat it. At that moment in time, the area code of our village was 212. We began, there, at St. Vincent’s, which is no longer on 7th Avenue and Greenwich, our own Village.

When my mother-in-law, originally a 212 and no matter how many palm trees swayed over her 561, she was 212 through and through, gave me a copy of Hillary Clinton’s book, It Takes a Village, I had two small children in my arms. I looked at the signed front page. I hefted the book, as if in holding it I could glean it’s wisdom, and put it on a shelf to be read another day. Or year. But by the time I got to it, I was no longer interested in what Hillary had to say about a village raising a child. I was living in that Village and didn’t need to know more.

We stayed in Manhattan for a year and a half with a small baby in a very small apartment. For a while we were buoyed in the bliss new baby brought in to a group of friends who were all on the verge of their own first children. Our friends held Ben, cooed and caressed him, gave us breaks and dinner and promised to be with us for the long run. They stood and sang at his naming ceremony, which we held in the back yard of the tiny house we bought over in Hillsdale, New York. We were making a break from Manhattan a weekend at a time. We sang and dabbed water from Bish Bash Falls on Ben’s broad forehead and ate bagels and lox from H&H on Broadway and 74th Street. We were still 212s.

But in the following year we fully planted ourselves, some lilacs and all of our belongings in to that tiny little house on a very quiet road and moved our Village to the country. My husband set up his office in the living room, closed the double doors and commenced to make our living while Ben and I strolled up and down that quiet road watching blue birds, hawks, herons and tractors. Lots of tractors.

But not many Villagers. We found Jack in the Pulpit in the spring along the road. We watched the pond clear of ice and hundreds of geese arrive. We fed the chickadees and watched a tall old pear tree burst in to blossom that first spring. Ben and I were adventurers discovering a different way of life from the gritty playgrounds and noisy restaurants where a set of four one-year olds smeared hummus over everything and my group of mothers who were all taking a break from our chosen professions to be full-time moms, calmed our worries and looked for common ground beyond diapers and teething.

May I mention here how lonely that country road was? Ronnie, the farmer down the road was fine with us watching him work. Jonathan and Ben became very familiar with the variety of tractors, trucks and tools Ronnie kept in his many barns. But the rest of the neighbors were second homeowners only up on weekends, or retired teachers who had no interest, not one ounce of interest in this woman trolling the dirt road for hours at a time.

We started to attend the Mommy and Me playgroup at the Methodist Church. My heart leapt at the possibility of meeting new women. FRIENDS! I showed up early, helped set up, found Ben a truck to play with and then sat down at the coffee table.
Week after week, I would arrive with the same enthusiasm and no one would talk to me. Ever. I sat there studying the backs of the Shopper’s Guides and newspapers they read and talked over to each other. I sipped my tea slowly and started bringing a book to read, just to keep myself from crying.

It was not so easy moving to the country after all.

One neighbor, a beautiful petite woman who lived where our road teed with 22, stopped to visit one afternoon. She had a daughter with a child near in age to Ben. She invited us to tea in hopes of cultivating a potential friend for the day her grandson would visit. We struck up a friendship, this woman and I. She is a well-known actress and chef. Jonathan and I cooked food from a cookbook of hers and served it to her before we realized exactly who she was. We were naive to her celebrity and selfish with her attention. I visited often enough to confess to her just what the Mommy and Me sessions were like. I cried in to the tea she served me in cups so fine I feared the bulk of me would crush them just by holding them gingerly on my knee. I was so full of grief and loneliness, admitting it to someone, anyone who would look me fully in the face, gave me an ocean of comfort. But what she said has stayed with me even more.

“Susanna, (for she has the most elegant lilt to her mango flavored speech) you will always be a “212”. ”
I was too dumb with the admission I had made to understand her.
A “212”?
“Yes, my dear, you will always be a “212” here in Hillsdale. These women see you as a New Yorker. Keep trying my dear, and you will find a friend.”

So area codes did really matter after all.

I took this fine woman’s advice and turned my steering wheel north. I started going to Pittsfield once a week to a playgroup up there. I shopped slowly at the Big Y or the Coop in Great Barrington, lingering in the produce aisle, asking women with kids in their carts where they took their kids to play. Someone, thank you for this angel for I have forgotten her face, but not her advice, sent me to Lake Mansfield. There, on the shores of that sweet great pond as it truly is classified here in the “413”, I met a woman and her son by virtue of the pretzels logs we shared with them one afternoon. She and he became the first in what has now become a verdant Village sprung up around the Lake and this town and my family.

Turn to your neighbor. Most of us are 413s here, right? Raise your hand if you are or were a 212. How about a 517? How about 718? How about 973? Any 906s? That is the area code of my homeland and when I find another 906, things start to happen to my accent.

Once I had more than my immediate, albeit tiny, family gathered round, like kindling adds to a nubile fire, things started happening. We lived another year in our house in Hillsdale; weathered the loss of a pregnancy and a Halloween where the only knock on our door came from a car full of kids who were dropped off at the end of our driveway. I scoured the pages of my own darn copy of the Shopper’s Guide and one day, there was an ad for a house for sale by owner.

By this time, Ben had graduated up to drinking cow’s milk. The axle of my days spun around how much milk was in the fridge, where to get milk, what time I’d have it by and when in relation to his long afternoon nap would the milk arrive. (This intellectual exercise kept me only partly occupied. The rest of my mind was sure there was more to motherhood than milk.)

When I pulled up to visit the house I’d found pictured in the Shopper’s Guide, there were two bottles of High Lawn Farm milk delivered on the front porch. It did not matter to me what the house looked like, what the heating costs were or who lived next door, I was sold on the house by the milk delivery. We bought the house within a week. The owners removed the ad from the Shopper’s Guide and our life in Great Barrington began.





This piece is sweetened by the surprise of meeting my midwife, one of my original Villagers, Cynthia Casoff Henry here in town the other day. She lives here now.
Who knew?

Thank you for reading me here.
Please step over to the updated Out of the Mouths of Babes page.
Your gift awaits you there.



Muffin Top: A Love Story is a movie must-see!

Writer, director and actress Cathryn Michon receiving the Gusty Gal award.
Writer, director and actress Cathryn Michon receiving the Gusty Gal award.

Last night at the Berkshire Festival of Women Writers, we got to celebrate the Gutsy Gal award winner, Muffin Top: A Love Story written and directed by Cathryn Michon.
The movie is hilarious and touching, and tosses a big bright loving light on feminism, so that even the most strident feminists become real people. And, if nothing else recommends this movie- the sex scenes are great. Trust me on this- they are so funny and so delightful, you can see this movie with your partner and have a really good conversation afterwards.

Congratulations of Cathryn and her entire production. This is a movie to share with your daughters and find so much to laugh about.


Registration is open for my Mapping Motherhood workshop here.

And this Wednesday is a Powder Keg Ramsdell Session writing workshop at the Ramsdell Library in Housatonic at 6:30 PM.

Please share the good news about this movie!


The Village: Tools and Self-love

On #creativeretreat planning my #mappingmotherhood workshop for April 18 in Charlotte, NC, then in a six day format for @IWWG in July. Come explore the uncharted regions of motherhood with me. Exploring today with my mentor books and guides. XoxoS

When you feed your heart, you give your best self what it most deserves: encouragement.
And not only having creative courage but giving encouragement affords a deep joy that converts anxiety and that flat happiness often cannot touch.
Jeffrey Davis

I am sitting on my yoga ball at my desk, the western exposure behind this computer screen offering a haze of sunlight across my desk. Spring, no longer a concept, is arriving slowly in the Berkshires. Much like the slow-motion movie I took at a freight train the other day, but it made me too nauseous to share with you, spring’s slow encounter with time makes me ache with hunger for green, makes me woozy for blossoms, makes my head spin for thinking of rhubarb.

But we aren’t there yet. That train is still a ways off, though I can hear the horn. Under the lilacs off our back porch, where I stubbornly hang pillowcases and delicates on a rack all winter, soil is revealed by the exit of snow. In that place, soon, will be crocus. Oh, I could roll around in that soil like a happy dog. Spring, oh, the smells! The textures! The surprises left behind by the melting snow! Treasures to sniff and lay in.

This is not what I set out to write about though. I have been thinking about tools. This past Sunday, in blowing snow, Amy Hale Auker presented a writing workshop titled, “The Question of Dragonflies” for the Berkshire Festival of Women Writers.

She spoke eloquently about her daily writing practice. Yes, I was swooning. Readers of LLD know that I consider my daily practice devotional and it is at the core of my Powder Keg Sessions writing workshops.

But when Amy said,

Come see my hand bound journals at @sixdepot til March 31. Thank you @amyauker for a wonderful @berkshirewomenwriters event! XoS #BFWW

you can imagine my glee. Loving my tools! My tools becoming personal! Selecting the ones that support my practice! I was a happy dog with all those good smells.

People in my world often say things like this, “Oh, I’d love to write every day, but I don’t have time.” “I couldn’t write what I really feel in a journal, what if they read it?” (they being husband, kids, sisters, brothers, parents, the others in our lives) They lament the lack of time. But mostly, they say they lack “self-discipline.”

Now, I must tell you, when my dreams turn towards 5:45 AM and I feel my husband turn off the alarm, I am not thinking monk-like thoughts like, “Oh you self-disciplined widget, get your fine self out of this warm bed and on to your meditation cushion and get to work.”

No, I think, “oh just one more dream.” (last night, Bruce Springsteen and I were in love and you can see why I want to return to that dream. He really liked everything about me.) I think, “Oh, if I fold my hands and start praying, maybe I will wake up a little more, then I can start writing.” I think, “Oh mind, just stay in this quiet a little more. You love this time. Stay here. Then, your cushion, your pens and your journal await.”

…where we think we need more self-discipline, we usually need more self-love-not just self-love as an attitude, but self-love manifested through the routines and rituals that we set up to enable the changes we desire to happen naturally and with ease.
-Tara Mohr
Playing Big


Lily and skin food

I love morning. I love watching light fill the Copper Beech up on the ridge above our house. I love listening to the wind in the oak. I love hearing my family pad around the house without me.

Since J and I married, he has rolled out of bed early and gone for a swim. Then, he handles the kids til I get downstairs. These months, with no kids in the house, it is a free-range morning for me.

So in the early morning, I go to my cherished tools, my hand bound journals and my Sharpie fine line pens, my Daily Rumi and my We’Moon calendar, Barbara Rockman’s Sting and Nest and Eavan Boland’s A Journey with Two Maps. I might read a bit of Thoreau, Danielle LaPorte, Tania Pyryputniewicz, Lissa Rankin, Emerson, Christian McEwen, John O’Donohue, Lynda Barry or Mary Oliver. This early time is my study and writing time.

Amy inscribes her journals with this statement:

In this place I make no mistakes.

My pages, like Julia Cameron’s morning pages, are where I write my dreams, (BRUCE!), what I did the day before, my hallowed “first thoughts” of the day, and dabble with the ideas I glean in my morning reading. Christian McEwen taught me that this sort of reading is called, Lectio Divina. I dip in to my mentor texts for lines that inspire me, warm my intellect and engage my heart. This is sacred jet fuel for me.

I make no mistakes in my journals. They are my private studios. You might wonder then, that I have an exhibit of 18 of my journals. But I am determined this season to express just what a daily writing practice looks like. My books are hand-bound Coptic stitch journals filled with painted papers, vintage and found pages, gifts from friends and sketch paper. I started sewing my own books because the tools of my daily practice have become very personal to me. I fill them with my writing, illegible-mostly hand-writing, my attempts at poetry, ideas for blog posts, lists of #EBT, miles of gratitude lists, book ideas, small collages and watercolors, lists of what I have read and seen, lists of what I want to do on this day. I dance with my inner life and invite a soft interaction with my outer life on these pages.



The books are prayers for me. This practice is one of self-love. I may seem disciplined to the outside viewer, but I crave this daily communion with the Infinite, who I meet in poetry and prayer, on the page.

I hold this practice with devotion. Not discipline.

I burn a candle. Beeswax is my favorite. I close my bedroom door, even if there are kids or guests around, this time is my own. Once I leave that space, the commerce of family life begins and I merge with the flow of daylight and doing.

Next Wednesday, March 25, at 12:15 PM I will give an artist talk about my journals at No. Six Depot in West Stockbridge, MA. I will share some of my book binding tools and writing practices. If you are in the area, come, buy lunch and join the talk in the big gallery at No. Six.

What are your tools?
Do you have a daily practice? Maybe you dance? Maybe you take an early walk? Might you give yourself this bit of self-love?

When I dial back, past the pens, books and paper, past the mediation pillow and beeswax candles, there I find my most basic tools:

My hands.
My heart.
My intellect.
My spirit.
My curiosity.


Daily writing

My daily practice cherishes these tools and they in turn, make all of Laundry Line Divine possible. My writing, teaching, art making and community making are all sprouted in my daily pages. This practice allows me to explore how I relate in the world, in this nest of silence; I hatch new ideas and connections.

If you have yearning that just won’t quit, consider what your daily practice could be. See if you can carve 15 minutes of something that you love and do it for 21 days. Tell me what happens.

This spring I am teaching in a few places.
April 18, in Charlotte North Carolina at Catherine Anderson’s Studio, I will teach my Mapping Motherhood workshop. Here is information. Please share it with your friends in that area.

In May, I will offer a Permission Slip event at Lifeworks Studio here in Great Barrington, MA. Date is TBA. We will  view our short movie, The Permission Slip, do a bit of art making, write and share in sacred circle that evening.

In June, I will be teaching Rampant Sisterhood: Online Engagement in Your Authentic Voice at Women’s Voices, Women’s Visions at Skidmore College, June 4-7. Here is more information about that.

In July, I will teach six luxurious 90 minute sections of Mapping Motherhood at the International Women’s Writing Guild retreat in Litchfield, CT. Here is information about that.

On August 16, I will lead my day-long Slow Time Salon on Superior in Big Bay, Michigan.

Please leave me a comment if you want more information. Or subscribe to this site to keep up with the news.

I am devoted to supporting the expression of women’s voices, in particular the stories of mothers. I use writing and art techniques and the tools of deep listening in sacred circle to provide women with tools they can take home to build a sustainable daily practice. I have been that woman with my feet nailed to the floor, flustered, frustrated and longing for a connection to my inner life.

My daily practice has been the means for me to find a way through the chaos of family life and the dense forest of becoming a woman.
If any of this work calls to you, please leave me a comment. I truly love hearing from readers of Laundry Line Divine.

And, if nothing else, go stand in that spring sunlight and know that you are in the right spot, right now, to offer yourself the gift of self-love.

All my best,



PS More Out of the Mouths of Babes blog posts coming this week and through Mother’s Day in May. Two brand new ones join the queue, one from Julie Bond Genovese and another from Morgan Nichols. The submission guidelines are here.



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